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懷孕不到三個月時, 就開心地在新加坡買了第一件寶寶的衣服. 總以為Sophie會是在羊年出生的, 所以看到這件Shaun the Sheep的小衣服就迫不及待的入手. 那時的我對寶寶衣服真是一點概念也沒有, 上面的尺碼用兩位數字標著60 (而不是幾個月大), 無袖的衣服回到台灣有四季的地方也不知道能不能穿得下? 不過怎麼管得了這麼多, 買了開心, 開心就買!
妳不但是個大寶寶 (3409 g), 身高也一直都在90+ percentile. 看幾個月大的標籤總是不準, 媽媽我也才學會原來包裝上的數字是指身高阿! 但我又怎麼知道妳多大時會多高呢? 所以我學會了用寶寶手冊上的成長曲線圖”預測”妳的身高, 好為妳預添購衣物或從美國網購. 😀
從月子中心回家後真正的媽媽生活才開始! 第一次把妳的衣服下水洗淨, 一件件披在rack上烘乾的那一刻, 手上拿著超迷你的衣服, 此刻我感動不已. 家裡多了一個人, 洗衣服要多洗這些小不點大的手套, 帽子, 襪子跟onesie. 這種感覺真奇妙!
寶貝, 媽咪會好好照顧妳, 陪在妳身邊. 希望妳平安, 健康, 快樂, 聰明的長大!
Sophie已經四個半月大了, 妳是個笑點超低的寶寶, 只要是新的事物, 新的聲音, 新的詞彙都能把妳逗得嘎嘎大笑! 即使對陌生人妳也投以開懷的微笑 — 爸把馬麻看了都好開心, 妳必定是個很有安全感的小孩.
這個月的妳不是那麼好帶, 接連著上個月的厭奶加上新生兒胃食道逆流的問題, 本來就很容易嘔吐的妳, 竟然在滿四個月收延的那天被鄰居的小孩染上感冒, 經過兩天的潛伏期, 開始不停打噴嚏流鼻水咳嗽, 爸媽第一次照顧生病的妳 (除了剛生出來的那緊急發燒外), 心理十分憂慮與心疼. 雖然看了醫生但爸爸不敢讓妳吃草藥止咳藥水. 只好讓妳把每餐喝下去的奶跟著咳嗽湧吐出來. 晚上咳嗽加鼻涕倒流睡不好, 這樣的日子過了一個多星期總算有了改善. 更令人欣慰的是, 再過一星期後的今天妳竟然可以一覺睡九個半小時!
看著妳不停地成長不斷地進步, 媽咪我也從剛開始不適應全職媽媽的生活到現在可以好好感受珍惜與妳相處的每一天. 四個月大的妳, 最喜歡我們跟妳說”加油!加油!” “Good Job!”, 把妳抱著一上一下的搖擺. 妳最喜歡看(咬)的一本書是Sayuri阿姨遠從美國送來的Jungly Tails. 兩天前, 當我唸故事給妳聽, 妳竟然會開始看有字的那面了! 妳最近也很喜歡觀察媽咪做的每一個動作. 當我餵妳吃米粥時, 表演”阿 (張嘴), 蠻蠻蠻, yummy”時妳總是會開心的笑!
三個月了, 說時間過得快也不那麼容易, 妳爸爸和我每天用日記接力記下妳每四小時為單位的大小便次數, 喝奶時間, 喝奶量, 媽咪我的擠奶量, 跟妳睡覺的長短. 終於在前天(12W3D)我們決心訓練妳睡過夜的第三天, 妳終於連續睡了6小時35分鐘! 真不敢相信, 這麼愛睡的我已經連續三個月每天睡不到五小時, 而一天可以睡六小時的那天一整天都神清氣爽!
妳可知道, 妳是個兩個月就不愛睡覺, 平均一天只睡12小時精力旺盛寶寶. 連醫生都問妳清醒的時間在做甚麼? 都在呀呀說話啊!! (PS: 兩個月的寶寶平均一天睡眠18小時.
媽咪和爸比都累壞了, 累到我對著電腦就打呼, 一邊擠奶一邊打盹, 昨天凌晨一點還差點翻倒! … 但只要看到妳的笑容, 跟我們認真的呀呀對話, 和不管我們說甚麼妳都露出開心的模樣, 那些疲憊竟都頓時消失. 原來當爸媽是這樣的阿! 明天妳就滿三個月大了, 我們一家三口要到Hyatt吃頓好料, 這可是第一次除了去醫院打預防針外帶妳出門喔 — 我們有好多要慶祝: Wedding anniversary + Sophie’s 3 months old birthday + Mommy’s very first Mother’s Day!
- Don’t rely on technical solutions to administrative problems.If you lock them out of things, you just encourage them to work around your restrictions.
- Use technical solutions as a backup – but your first lines of defense should be policy, supervision and a review of the needs driving the problem behaviour.
- What are they seeking, and why aren’t they getting it from what they are allowed to do? How can you provide it in a safe and appropriate manner?
- Don’t rely on security through obscurity.
- If the only thing preventing them from doing something is not knowing about it, you are fucked. Not only will they find out, but they’ll find out from exactly the kind of people you don’t want them learning things from.
- Tell them about it, and then tell them why they shouldn’t, so they can’t get blindsided or scammed. Tie it into the policy-and-supervision methods above, and you’ve got your best chance of controlling the outcomes.
- The more orders and rules you throw at them, the less attention they’ll pay to any of them.
- Nagging is the first thing to get filtered from their awareness, and resentment obliterates compliance.
- Keep the rules as simple and as few as possible.
- Wide latitude with iron boundaries works a lot better than micromanagement with wiggle room.
- Make their needs a fundamental input to policy formulation; if you have to keep giving them a hard time about things, your system is a bad fit, and you’ll both have stressful lives.
- Every time you give instructions, you reduce the effectiveness of your communication. Work towards a target of zero interventions under normal conditions, and build systems that contribute to this.
- The more requests they throw at you, the less capable they become and the more stressed you get.
- While you need a degree of control in order to enforce policy and usefully manage resources, you should treat authority as a cost, not a benefit. Don’t hardwire yourself into every decision loop, or you’ll just end up resenting each other.
- Instead, facilitate their independence as far as possible – and try and design the system towards this end.
- If you find yourself proxying or rubber-stamping requests, you’re doing it wrong. Hook them up directly, or give them the authority to do it themselves.
- When you’re acting in a support context, don’t be a grouchy, judgy asshole.
- This is your job, and they are people too. Yes, they can be frustrating as hell, but they’ve come to you for help, so look at the problem through their eyes. What do they need out of the experience?
- Yes, this is the Nth time you’ve told them not to do X, or Y would happen, and they’ve gone and done X again. Yes, you need to teach them – but acting like a dick about it won’t make them remember, it’ll just make them less likely to report the problem in future.
- Being jaded, cynical and frustrated at how useless they are at everything is feels good at the time, but it’s unfair to them and corrosive to you. Avoid this trap, and just be helpful and cheerful instead.
What is the difference between LPG and LNG? Which one has tankers? Why does it not make sense for the other one to have tankers as well?